STEP 2
PROTECT WHAT BELONGS TO YOU

Protect what belongs to you

What you have now may not be much, or maybe it is already all you ever wanted. What is important is that you protect that what you want to keep with you. This can be a place to live, a partner, a child, a job, family, friends, … etc.

In order to do that, you need boundaries. Place your boundaries in the here and now. Because the outside world will run you over, it will take whatever it can when boundaries are weak or absent.

If you already feel that you are pulled in all different directions, the first thing you need to do is make your world small. Let go of everything that is not directly dependent on your time and energy. At this moment you don’t need to do anything except that what sustains your daily living and that what makes your house a safe and warm place for you and the people depending on you. Priorities!

Setting boundaries starts with getting to know your boundaries. Especially for a High Sensitive Person (HSP) this can be really difficult because of their empathic power.

Due to our high sensitivity as a HSP we feel what other people feel and for most of us, we never learn to distinguish between our own feelings and those of others. Because we feel how other people feel, we feel their happiness, their disappointment, their sadness, their anger, etc. And most of the time we don't even know those feelings are not ours.

As a result, we do what other people expect from us, we do what makes them happy. Because when they feel happy, we feel happy. And when they are disappointed in us, we are disappointed in ourselves. And thus, we are always running around pleasing others.To stop being a people pleaser it is important to learn which feelings are ours and which are not.

For us to be able to distinguish between our own feelings and other people's feelings, we have to start our journey inside ourselves. The region of our stomach to be exact. This is the region where feelings, or energies, from others come in. Before you start your day, the first thing you do is placing your attention on yourself and sense how you are feeling. Remember how you feel. When you go out, you check-in with yourself a few times a day. When you notice you feel different with no clear reason, you can be sure this feeling is not yours.

It can be helpful to use essential oil of Juniperus Communis, or Juniper berry. Put 1 drop of this essential oil on the tip of your finger and rub it on your belly in a clockwise fashion at the height of your stomach. This will make you less sensitive to energies or feelings from others.

When you come home and feel the need to flush every feeling and energy that does not belong to you out of your system, you can do this grounding exercise. I used to do this every day while taking a shower and it is best done when being naked 😊

  • Place one of your hand, flat and palm open on your belly just below your belly button. Rub in a steady fashion down to your pubic mound and upwards again, 20 times.

  • Take the other hand and do the same.

  • Then place both hands flat on your stomach. Your hands are 'charged' now, you can feel them tingling. Rub around your belly button in a clockwise fashion, 25 rounds.

  • You sense a grounding feeling go down your legs to your feet and into the ground. All excess stress and emotions are flushed away. A feeling of well-being can be restored.

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